ESP32 Arduino SDK 3.x fixes

[petrkr]

Here I will fix incompatible things with SDK 3.x IDF 5

• first thing is mentioned in Elegant OTA library update #2264
• far for now this contain fix of ESPNow! call back as it changed prototype

TODO for SDK 3 full support:

• Something reinitialize I2C, my guess was XPowerLibs on Tbeam, but if I will comment it out, it still does not works well (OLED for example)
• also PMU seem to works during board initialization, but later in app is missing bat voltage/percent

DEBUG: Warning: Failed to find AXP2101 power management
DEBUG: AXP192 PMU init succeeded, using AXU...
        Found AXP192/AXP2101 PMU
        Found SSD1306/SH1106 display
Scan for devices is complete.

GPS RX pin: 12 GPS TX pin: 34

isCharging:YES
isDischarge:NO
isVbusIn:YES
getBattVoltage:4193mV
getVbusVoltage:5049mV
getSystemVoltage:4949mV
getBatteryPercent:100%

/// and since this one... So something deinitalized I2C or using different instance

[   792][E][esp32-hal-i2c.c:307] i2cSetClock(): bus is not initialized
[   798][E][esp32-hal-i2c.c:193] i2cWrite(): bus is not initialized

[petrkr]

Found what causing I2C issues.
Here
https://github.com/meshcore-dev/MeshCore/blob/dev/src/helpers/ui/SSD1306Display.h#L10-L12

id hard-coded PIN 21 if pin is not passed by board.

But on TBeam (and almost all others ESP32 boards) is PIN 21 used for I2C_SDA signal.

I suggest change it to -1 (same as for example here https://github.com/meshcore-dev/MeshCore/blob/dev/src/helpers/ui/SH1106Display.h#L10 )

Because now there are just two solutions (which I know)

1st is change it to -1 and OLED which will need it will pass it by -D compilation parameter (my guess there will be nothings like that, never saw OLED wit I2C and RST pin)

2nd keep it 21, but change every OLED board platformio.ini to -D PIN_OLED_RESET to -1